The Law Of Attraction Doesn't Understand 'Don't, Not or No'

Have you ever wondered why sometimes we get something that we really didn't want in our lives? People often tell me, "I didn't ask for THAT!"

In fact, some people think that the Law of Attraction 'isn't working for me' when they attract something they didn't want into their life--but it is. You see, the Law of Attraction doesn't hear the words 'don't, not or no' (as in, 'I don't want that.' 'That's not what I want.' 'No more of this!') it only responds to your feelings (your vibes) about that subject. If thinking about a certain situation causes you to feel upset, the Law of Attraction sends you MORE upsetting situations.

Here's a story sent to me by a reader, that demonstrates what I mean:
I went to a charity event last night (for which I paid $50) and then I donated another $20 for raffle tickets for various prizes. The idea was to put your ticket into the bowl that represented the prize you wanted. Well, none of the prizes were exciting to me. I put my ticket into the bowl that seemed the best of the three. And as I did so, I said to myself, 'I' really hope I don't win this silly haircut.' Then I realized there were more than three prizes and I felt disappointed that I had put my ticket into that bowl, but it was too late to take it back. So, as they were calling the prize winners I again said 'I' don't want that haircut.' When they read out my number I was so disbelieving that I had to ask them to repeat the number because I could not believe that I had won it - especially because I had said so clearly, 'I don't want it!' - well you know the ending of this story. I focused on it, said "don't" and focused on it again. DUH!! Now the fact is, it is a nice prize and I will use it - what was I thinking?
Sometimes I use the illustration of the Internet Search Engines--if you go to www.goolge.ca and type in the words 'no porn'--what will you get? That's right--PORN. The Search Engines don't understand Don't give me--they just understand porn.

So, if I don't want something, how do I avoid attracting it into my life?
By answering this simple question: 'If I don't want this . . . what do I want?'
Sometimes it takes a while to formulate a positive answer to that question, but taking the time to do so is the ONLY way to stop attracting what you don't want.

If I don't want clients who are late for our sessions, what do I want?  I want clients who are on time or early.
If I don't want to chase after clients to be paid for my services, what do I want? I want clients who joyfully pay by credit card or E-check for my services--on time or early.

If I fail to get clear about what I DO want, according to the Law of Attraction, I will attract that which I don't want into my life again and again--for until I place my focus on something else, what I don't want IS (by default) my focus.

Can you think of something that has been occurring in your life, over and over again?  If so, take a few minutes--just 5 or 10 minutes and do this exercise:

1. Write down on paper what this reoccurring event is. State what happens and how it makes you feel.
2. Then ask the question: If I don't want that to happen again, what DO I want to happen? or If I don't want to feel like that again, what DO I want to feel like?

Get a picture in your mind, an idea or a feeling for how you would like it to be. Find the words that most accurately express what you want and write them down on paper. Doing this will engage all your senses to such a degree that you will automatically begin to attract events and situations that are more enjoyable.

Your Preferences - As Unique As Your Fingerprints

Would life be different, if you believed that everything you love and enjoy is just right for you?
What would happen if you knew yourself so well you could say with confidence, "No thank you, I prefer..."
How would you look at others, if you really understood that their choices are perfect for them?

The Law of Attraction teaches us to recognize our personal preferences by noticing how things feel and asking ourselves, "Which feels better?  This or that?" When we take the time to notice our feelings, we learn about ourselves in a way that leads to great personal freedom and happiness.

Before I learned about the Law of Attraction and how I attract people, situations and opportunities in complete accord with my vibration (vibes), I tried to live by a set of standards or principles. I remember a time when I asked my pastor if he could give me a list of these principles so I could make sure I was living the right way. I did everything I could to be the perfect mother, dutiful housewife and selfless Christian. I thought that by conforming to what other people expected, I would become happy too. I was NOT a happy, joyful person. I was a person in great emotional and eventually physical, pain.

But the Law of Attraction taught me to notice when something doesn't feel good, because that feeling of discomfort is an indicator that something is NOT good for me. Anything out of alignment with who I am and all the purposes I came to fulfill will NOT feel good. WOW!  I had been placing my hand on a hot stove and trying to feel comfortable with the pain. I'd lived with chronic emotional and physical pain for so long that I was becoming numb to it. (A third degree burn is painless because all the nerve endings are burned away.)
One day, the truth finally dawned on me: Only I can choose what is best for me. No one can tell me what is good for me--only I can tell. And the way I tell is by noticing how everything feels, then looking for the thought, answer, idea or thing that feels best.

"Good feels good. Bad feels bad." ~ Abraham-Hicks

Knowing and honoring my personal preferences causes me to fulfill ALL my life purposes--naturally. Everything I set out to do during this lifetime is already programmed within me. The way I 'read the program' is to notice what brings me great joy and follow that lead. In fact, this is the shortest and easiest way to find fulfillment. Before I learned about the Law of Attraction, I felt like I had lost 30 years of my life by trying to endure a poor marriage. But within 5 years of applying the Law of Attraction in the way described in this article, I felt caught up on life. About two years ago, I had a profound realization:  "Today, I am exactly where I would be, if I had done the first 55 years of my life differently." That is a GREAT feeling!
Now I tell my students:  "Your personal preferences are as unique to you as your fingerprints. Only you can do certain things in this life and your preferences are there to guide you into actually living life in the most joyfully satisfying way!"
What about you?  Are you seeing yourself in this light?  Have you wondered why you don't fit in with the crowd?  Are you ready to accept yourself and your preferences as being right for YOU?

Your Vibrational Meter

Have you ever felt 'stuck' in life? I mean totally 'stuck'--immobilized, paralyzed or unable to make the right decision?

Several years ago, a friend of mine felt totally stuck.  He was considering a business opportunity that seemed like an ideal situation for him and it promised to be very lucrative as well. However, he had hit burnout several times during the course of his association with that business and he had to admit that something did not feel right about the whole thing. He took two weeks off from communicating with the parties involved, believing that if he had some space he  would find the answer that he needed, in order to know how to proceed. But at the end of the two weeks, he felt just as confused as he had been earlier, and did not know whether to proceed with a partnership or pull out partially or pull out entirely.

He went away to a nearby resort to try to clear my head and find the answer. After two days and nights he still was had no clear idea of what to do. He was trying so hard to figure everything out with my mind and my rational mind was not helping at all. Finally, in desperation, in the middle of the night he wrote:

"I need a new framework; a completely new way of looking at my life and making decisions."

The next morning, he plugged in a cassette tape a newfound friend had sent him. Though the tape was of poor quality, he heard something that has become his  new framework:

“You have within you a god-given vibrational meter that tells you what is good for you and what is not good for you. That vibrational meter is your emotions. If something feels good, then it is good for you. If something does not feel good, then it isn't.”

He knew immediately that this business proposal was NOT good for him, because he did not feel entirely good about it. In fact, he was making himself sick trying to make it feel right when it was not.

What a relief it was to have this new framework from which to make decisions.
He  had clarity and peace about not preceding with this business partnership AND he  immediately wrote out a list of characteristics that he WANTED in a business partnership. Within a few days, he met his  current business partner who is an absolute perfect match to that want list.

With the realization of this vibrational meter, you never need to make decisions with your mind. You never need to rationalize or justify your decisions. You simply need to recognize that "that doesn't feel good" and "that feels good" and "that feels great!" to know what is right for you.

The Law Of Attraction Doesn't Understand 'Don't, Not or No'

 Have you ever wondered why sometimes we get something that we really didn't want in our lives? People often tell me, "I didn't ask for THAT!"

In fact, some people think that the Law of Attraction 'isn't working for me' when they attract something they didn't want into their life--but it is. You see, the Law of Attraction doesn't hear the words 'don't, not or no' (as in,'I don't want that.' 'That's not what I want.' 'No more of this!') it only responds to your feelings (your vibes) about that subject. If thinking about a certain situation causes you to feel upset, the Law of Attraction sends you MORE upsetting situations.

Here's a story sent to me by a reader, that demonstrates what I mean:
I went to a charity event last night (for which I paid $50) and then I donated another $20 for raffle tickets for various prizes. The idea was to put your ticket into the bowl that represented the prize you wanted. Well, none of the prizes were exciting to me. I put my ticket into the bowl that seemed the best of the three. And as I did so, I said to myself, 'I' really hope I don't win this silly haircut.' Then I realized there were more than three prizes and I felt disappointed that I had put my ticket into that bowl, but it was too late to take it back. So, as they were calling the prize winners I again said 'I' don't want that haircut.' When they read out my number I was so disbelieving that I had to ask them to repeat the number because I could not believe that I had won it - especially because I had said so clearly, 'I don't want it!' - well you know the ending of this story. I focused on it, said "don't" and focused on it again. DUH!! Now the fact is, it is a nice prize and I will use it - what was I thinking?


Sometimes I use the illustration of the Internet Search Engines--if you go to www.goolge.ca and type in the words 'no porn'--what will you get? That's right--PORN. The Search Engines don't understand Don't give me--they just understand porn.

So, if I don't want something, how do I avoid attracting it into my life?
By answering this simple question: 'If I don't want this . . . what do I want?'
Sometimes it takes a while to formulate a positive answer to that question, but taking the time to do so is the ONLY way to stop attracting what you don't want.
If I don't want clients who are late for our sessions, what do I want?  I want clients who are on time or early.

If I don't want to chase after clients to be paid for my services, what do I want? I want clients who joyfully pay by credit card or E-check for my services--on time or early.

If I fail to get clear about what I DO want, according to the Law of Attraction, I will attract that which I don't want into my life again and again--for until I place my focus on something else, what I don't want IS (by default) my focus.

Can you think of something that has been occurring in your life, over and over again?  If so, take a few minutes--just 5 or 10 minutes and do this exercise:
1. Write down on paper what this reoccurring event is. State what happens and how it makes you feel.
2. Then ask the question: If I don't want that to happen again, what DO I want to happen? or If I don't want to feel like that again, what DO I want to feel like?
Get a picture in your mind, an idea or a feeling for how you would like it to be. Find the words that most accurately express what you want and write them down on paper. Doing this will engage all your senses to such a degree that you will automatically begin to attract events and situations that are more enjoyable.

Three Steps to Attracting More Satisfying Relationships

 As long as the Law of Attraction has only the 'DON'T want' script, it is restricted to orchestrating that script over and over. We must give the Law of Attraction some NEW MATERIAL to work with.

What do you really want in your relationships?  Security? Affection? Loyalty? Companionship? Communication? What?
Do you wonder why you keep attracting certain types of people into your life?
Are you tired of feeling disappointed in 'love?
Have you ever been 'blind-sided' by someone you thought was a friend?
Do you feel desperate to find that special person you can live with forever?
Here are three steps that can help you in attracting more satisfying relationships:

Step 1:  Make a thorough list of all the characteristics or scenarios of your past relationships that you DON'T WANT to experience again. You can use the T-toolTM for this exercise or just take a fresh sheet of paper and draw a large 'T' on it.
Label the left hand column: 'I Don't want' and the right-hand column, 'I Do Want'.

Ask your Inner Self to remind you of past events that you do NOT want repeated.
Write a few words about each event that express the essence of that event.

Step 2:  Examine each item on the 'I DON'T want ..." side and ask yourself this question: "If I don't want this, what DO I want?"

One major reason why we keep attracting the same unsatisfactory relationships is because we fail to use the contrast contained in those negative events to get clear about what we DO want.

Step 3:  Write a Script about how you DO want your relationships to be:
As long as the Law of Attraction has only the 'DON'T want' Script, it is restricted to orchestrating that Script over and over. We must give the Law of Attraction some NEW MATERIAL to work with.

Scripting accesses all four parts of the brain.
The left brain which deals with words and logic;
The right brain which understands patterns and symbols ;
The mid-brain which experiences emotions; and
The brain stem which registers physical stimulation .

When we write a Script, starting with a phrase such as:  "If I had my way...", and use our imagination about that which feels good to us, we are accessing our right and mid-brain. A thought or feeling comes and we translate it into words (using the left brain) that symbolize the thought or feeling (right brain again). Writing the Script engages the body, which registers in the brain stem.

When all four parts of the brain are engaged, a powerful message is delivered to the Universe.
I like to end my Scripts with the phrase, "And do this in ways that are for my highest good and the highest good of everyone involved." This is a phrase that helps me let go of 'HOW" this will all happen, and allows the Law of Attraction to bring it about in the very best possible way.

Remember, the Law of Attraction brings us precisely what we vibrate. So if we want to experience relationships that are more satisfying, then we must change our dominant vibration to match the experiences we WANT to have.

Law of Attraction and Dreams, Premonitions or Predictions

How can we believe the Law of Attraction is working when some things seem beyond our control?

Recently, I received an interesting email in which a woman told me that when she was 10 years old, she was shown in a dream how one day she would have a son and he would die at a certain age in a specific fashion. She also reported that this did, in fact, occur. Her question to me was, "How can I believe the Law of Attraction is working when some things seem beyond our control?"
What's happening when we have dreams, premonitions or receive a prediction that something (usually unwanted) is going to take place in the future? Or when it does happen we remember having received foreknowledge?

Here are three things you might consider:

1. Time only exists here on earth for us humans. Quantum physics teaches that although everything; every event, every experience, every possibility exists at the same time--in the NOW--man has invented time: the past, the present and the future, to bring some sort of order into these experiences. Religions call this Eternity--the place where time has no beginning and no end.

2. The Law of Attraction teaches us that everything vibrates and every vibration affects all other vibrations. I like the way Abraham-Hicks put it: "Everything vibrates and is communicating, reacting, responding and integrating with other vibrating things." ~Well Being Cards

3. Our subconscious mind is directly connected to the Super Conscious Mind (Source, Higher Power, Inner Being and Holy Spirit) and we are all learning how to translate this information for "human consumption." Remember, the translator is a person with their own agenda, fears and ideas about the meaning of this information.

I have been experiencing dreams, visions and prophetic words since 1987--actually, I had many experience of this nature as a young child, followed by years of rare occurrences. What I've found is that ANY piece of information can be interpreted through a filter of fear or love. When it is filtered through fear, it usually brings an ominous feeling to the prediction. When it is filtered through love, the message uplifts, encourages and strengthens people. And the choice is in the hands of the interpreter. I have decided to interpret dreams, visions and prophecies in the most positive life-giving way!  Any thing less does not feel good to me.

So, my answer to the question: "How can I believe the Law of Attraction is working when some things seem beyond our control?" is this--

All things are connected at Source. Believe the best interpretation you can give to your dreams, premonitions, and all such occurrences. And if the prediction should come true--or you receive an outcome which is different or less than you would have chosen--KNOW THIS: you are indeed blessed to have been PREPARED for this event.

My friend told me when she  was pregnant with  her fourth child, Sarah,  she had a premonition that something was not right with the child she  was carrying.  she even told one of  her girlfriends, "You know how people say, 'I don't care if it's a boy or girl, as long as it's ok?' Well, I can't say that about this baby. I CAN say, 'I don't care if it's a boy or girl and it's ok if it is not ok.' All will be well." And of course, when Sarah was born it was still surprising that she was born with Down's Syndrome. And yet, she felt so SPECIAL, because she HAD been prepared.

I truly believe in the prevalence of Goodness. I believe the knowledge of an event before it occurs is a gift. Something in us attracted this knowledge so that we could consciously prepare for it. Does that mean we have no choice or say in such matters?  Sometimes the vibration of another person becomes a part of our life and deep down inside of us, we DO have a corresponding harmonious vibration. Sarah chose to be born different genetically. Her true self wants to experience life here on earth different from most people.  My friend has   a vibration in  her that loves her and wants to encourage and support her along her journey.

They  are a perfect match. And all really is well.

Manifestation and the Importance of Living in the Present

When you start observing your mind first thing you might notice is that you don’t control it. How many times you have read something, sometimes even trying to really concentrate on the subject, but then you caught yourself thinking about something completely different at the same time?


 Do you sometimes observe your mind? In the ancient Vedic scripture Bhagavad-Gita, Krishna says to Arjuna “One must deliver himself with the help of his mind, and not degrade himself. The mind is the friend of the conditioned soul, and his enemy as well. For him who has conquered the mind, the mind is the best of friends; but for one who has failed to do so, his mind will remain the greatest enemy.”
When you start observing your mind first thing you might notice is that you don’t control it. How many times you have read something, sometimes even trying to really concentrate on the subject, but then you caught yourself thinking about something completely different at the same time?
You can observe your mind, because you are not your mind, as you are not your body (This article is not about “You are not your body” subject. I wrote more about it in “Introduction to Manifestation”)
To manifest what you want you need to control your mind. You need to concentrate, meditate and visualize often. You need to focus on the things you want to manifest. If you allow your mind to jump freely from one subject to another, like a monkey from tree to tree, it will take you long time to achieve your goals.

One aspect of this is importance of living in the NOW. You can notice that we often think about the past, and when we think about the past we tend to think about “old good times”. There are not “old good times”. We simply forget about bad times and think about good times mostly, because it allows us to escape from the present reality and live in happy illusion.

The point is that the past, happy or sad is dead. We can’t change it. It also doesn’t have any value for our manifesting purposes. Of course we can hopefully learn from our past mistakes, but that’s it, otherwise dwelling on the past is just a waste of time.

If we don’t think about the past we usually think about the future. Often we are afraid of the future, sometimes we look at the future with hope. But the future is made in the present. We need to start living in the present and concentrate on the present. We need to be happy now.
If we are happy now, we build our happy future. Because of that it is very important to gradually control the mind and to live in the now; try to be happy now.

We can easily change our mind’s states. We can listen to some good music which we like, we can think about someone we love or we can look at something beautiful. Whatever helps you to feel happy, and the most important we can visualize the things we want in the future as already achieved.
A good way to get in the good mood is to do some simple yogic breathing exercises, which very quickly help to achieve peace and control of the mind.
Another good way is to practice gratitude for the things you have and the things you would like to have. You cannot feel unhappy when you feel grateful.

There are many different methods, but to start manifesting the things you want easily and quickly it’s good to find a good mentor or course, and follow the instructions. Reading about manifestation, the law of attraction and self improvement is always good, but the best is to take action and apply what you have learned.

Law of Attraction and Dreams, Premonitions or Predictions

How can we believe the Law of Attraction is working when some things seem beyond our control?

Recently, I received an interesting email in which a woman told me that when she was 10 years old, she was shown in a dream how one day she would have a son and he would die at a certain age in a specific fashion.

She also reported that this did, in fact, occur. Her question to me was, "How can I believe the Law of Attraction is working when some things seem beyond our control?"

What's happening when we have dreams, premonitions or receive a prediction that something (usually unwanted) is going to take place in the future? Or when it does happen we remember having received foreknowledge?

Here are three things you might consider:
1. Time only exists here on earth for us humans. Quantum physics teaches that although everything; every event, every experience, every possibility exists at the same time--in the NOW--man has invented time: the past, the present and the future, to bring some sort of order into these experiences. Religions call this Eternity--the place where time has no beginning and no end.
2. The Law of Attraction teaches us that everything vibrates and every vibration affects all other vibrations. I like the way Abraham-Hicks put it: "Everything vibrates and is communicating, reacting, responding and integrating with other vibrating things." ~Well Being Cards
3. Our subconscious mind is directly connected to the Super Conscious Mind (Source, Higher Power, Inner Being and Holy Spirit) and we are all learning how to translate this information for "human consumption." Remember, the translator is a person with their own agenda, fears and ideas about the meaning of this information.

Another friend had  been experiencing dreams, visions and prophetic words since 1987--actually,  she had many experience of this nature as a young child, followed by years of rare occurrences. What I've found is that ANY piece of information can be interpreted through a filter of fear or love. When it is filtered through fear, it usually brings an ominous feeling to the prediction. When it is filtered through love, the message uplifts, encourages and strengthens people. And the choice is in the hands of the interpreter. I have decided to interpret dreams, visions and prophecies in the most positive life-giving way!  Any thing less does not feel good to me.

So, my answer to the question: "How can I believe the Law of Attraction is working when some things seem beyond our control?" is this--

All things are connected at Source. Believe the best interpretation you can give to your dreams, premonitions, and all such occurrences. And if the prediction should come true--or you receive an outcome which is different or less than you would have chosen--KNOW THIS: you are indeed blessed to have been PREPARED for this event.

When  muy friend was pregnant with her  fourth child, Sarah,  she had a premonition that something was not right with the child  she was carrying.  she  even told one of  her  girlfriends, "You know how people say, 'I don't care if it's a boy or girl, as long as it's ok?' Well, I can't say that about this baby. I CAN say, 'I don't care if it's a boy or girl and it's ok if it is not ok.' All will be well." And of course, when Sarah was born it was still surprising that she was born with Down's Syndrome. And yet,  she  felt so SPECIAL, because  she  HAD been prepared.

I truly believe in the prevalence of Goodness. I believe the knowledge of an event before it occurs is a gift. Something in us attracted this knowledge so that we could consciously prepare for it. Does that mean we have no choice or say in such matters?  Sometimes the vibration of another person becomes a part of our life and deep down inside of us, we DO have a corresponding harmonious vibration. Sarah chose to be born different genetically. Her true self wants to experience life here on earth different from most people.  My firend has  a vibrational energy in her that loves her and wants to encourage and support her along her journey.
They are a  perfect match. And all really is well.